Starting Date Deputy has been eye opening for many reasons, but one reason is particularly troubling to me. The MAJORITY of married couples are no longer dating…
Now, you may be saying...DUH! they’re married, of course they’re not dating. But what I mean is that they aren’t going on dates with each other. This is not just bad for my business…it’s bad for the marriage. Couples are too busy to go on a date with one another…Yikes! Is this you? I’ll be honest here and tell you that my husband and I have fallen into this same rut…when #2 was born…we were one of the couples who stopped dating. This was not a good time for our marriage.
There are plenty of statistics out there that say over half of marriages end in divorce. And if we aren’t spending quality alone time with each other, it’s no wonder! In today’s day and age we have so many things keeping us busy and preoccupied that it’s very easy to lose sight of what should be the most important part of your life. Your marriage.
It may be hard to think this. I will admit…it’s hard for me to write that my marriage should be more important than my kids. But, it should! Important means of great significance or consequence. And think of the significance of your marriage being healthy. Think of the consequence of it being unhealthy…or ending. What kind of effect would that have on your kids?
Children are their own humans (you were once your parents’ child). They will grow up, move out (ideally) and may even get spouses of their own. And what would you like to teach them…That marriage is important? That their spouse should be a top priority? It’s MUCH more likely for them to grow up and be in a healthy relationship if they see one first hand.
Dating has a big role in this!
Now this may sound self-serving, and it is ;)…but it’s also true. I am not saying that you have to go on elaborate/fancy/expensive dates…but we all need quality, alone time with our spouse. Time where you are focusing on your relationship…not the kids, the bills, the house or work…just each other. Your emotions, your needs, your thoughts on life…whatever makes you happy and feel connected.
So, I’d like to challenge you all.
Date your spouse! Mark it on the calendar. Make it a priority. Set a good example for your kids. Start with baby steps, once a month, or even every other month. But ideally, we should be spending quality time each week together. It doesn’t have to be a four-hour affair. You don’t have to use Date Deputy. Just make time, maybe it’s only 1-2 hours, but it should be alone time. There’s always going to be some reason you’re too busy to do it. But if you do it, I bet you’ll be happier in your marriage…which in turn makes you (and the kids) happier!
And, if you do this...I would LOVE to hear about the impact.
I'm a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. I love animals, music, UK, chocolate, God and family. (not in that order) I play fantasy football, enjoy a good glass of red wine and hate sitting still for too long. As far as dating goes, I love to be surprised and think that food is essential part to every date. I believe in good manners, respect and chivalry, and think most men can win over a girl with those things alone!